an Indian girl and I am in my late twenties. Today I will tell you a very
common story which you people have heard it many times. I am just expressing
myself what I have been seen and observed in my whole life. ” Life of a middle
Girls are brought
up in such a manner by realizing them” beta kal ko char log ayene to kya
kahenge” ( In future some people will come and see you like this what they will
say or think). First of all I want to meet those four people who are born to
keep track on girls’ daily activities (Jo ladki ke bacchpan se hi uski life mai
kundali marke baithe hai) (The girl who has burden of them ) .LOL. Here I am
talking about 90’s era.( Now a days scenarios get changed).
In schools, girls
were not allowed to open hair; two braids were must with red ribbons. Young
boys and girls had some shot of affections. They expressed it in a very descent
manner while keeping girls dignity first. That time it seems they are going to
be mingle in future and the friends around them keep teasing them by saying
some coded name or “bhabi ji jija
Girls had very few
male friends as was not permitted by parents to talks much with boys. How to
dress up, how to talk. This all was taught by parents. There was no authority
to decide how she wants to dress up. If she expressed herself only response
most of the parents had ”jab sasural jaogi vha kar lena shauk pure, yha nahi
chalega” (After marriage do whatever you want to do but not in here ). Now
girls as a ball pass to another court. Wait for another supreme court to allow
her the way she wants…..dependency on “char log kya kahenge, yhi sikhya ladki
ko”.( again, what society will say, Is this your upbringing ?)
After school life,
everyone started their first baby step towards their career, choosing college,
courses and even some girls were set to get married after 12, percentage of
those girls was less but yes they exist.
Those who were
left in school time to make any relation, affection and love story, first two
years of college are for them. Rest of the crowd who didn’t have any “chit
chat” type relation, they used to predict probability, permutation and
combination for others’ relation
(it doesn’t mean they went college for
all this, though they do study very well). This is also a kind of talent to
manage your time. just a part of life.
Now, the life
struggle begins here after your college. This struggling time is the only
genuine friend who will let you know who is your nearest and dearest ones.
Filmy duniya ends here and people come out from their dreams. Couples who were
in true relation and seem to be mingling one day are now seeing sharing their
rest of life with someone else.
After life gets settled,
having good job, own house and achievement. I come to marriage reality, people
start looking for bride and groom. Marriage is no more a marriage; it’s a job
interview, deal and business.
I know many of you disagree with me. But
here I am showing only facts nothing else.
In some places
people want a big bucket of dowry in the name of bride happiness, facilities in
future, like sofa set, car, bike and even cash. If bride family is able to give
that bucket then only girl is perfect otherwise rejection is must. Some parents
take dowry because they have invested lots of money on their “laadla” education
(professional courses or higher degree). And marriage is the right thing to get
“Vasooli”, despite their “laadla” doesn’t have any job in his hand.
“I know not all
families are like this…..there is good one also. I am just mentioning some of
Now come to well
educated, good looking boy and man. Some of them wanted a good looking girl,
who speaks English fluently and maintain their status symbol in societies.
“Nahi to society wale kya bolenge”
neighbors’ daughter is getting married and there is gossiping around that in
colony. This might ignites your parent’s tension, like in 3 idiots
dialogue-“kammu itni saal ki ho gyi, kaun karega isse shaddi” ( When Kammo will
get married) .. lol
Even we girls get
happy when we found a boy who let us to do everything in our life. supreme
court allowed you to do whatever you want to do..
This is how
But does a boy
ever thinks so much about his right?? He has full authority to dress up in his
own way; he has no worries for any permission.
My big question
“where does love exist”. Only affection and adjustment are left
But yes !I agreed
some genuine, loyal people do exist who have nice and clean crystal bonding.